Forgive and Forget?💔

How do you define forgiveness? Are some actions unforgivable? I guess forgiveness goes hand in hand with closure. Once you allow yourself to accept what someone has done to you or against you that is one step closer to your happiness.🙌🏽 You don't deserve to be bitter and unhappy because of someone else while they are out living their best life. The act of forgiveness takes time. I'm still in the process of it right now.🤦🏽‍♀️ But that's for another time. What I learned is that you have to see situations through the lens of someone else. There are many people that don't think like you. So you have to be OPEN and understand everyone has a different perspective on life in general. That is when maturity kicks in. You think your way is the right way and you think you are right. Which sometimes may be the case, but you may not be the only one hurt in the situation. And that causes people to "lash" out and "throw dirt on your name". That makes it even harder to forgive a person, but that doesn't make it impossible. I am guilty of giving people one thousand chances. You are probably thinking I mean relationship wise, but I am also talking about friendships. I have given old friends many chances before we have stopped talking completely. That is where the problem starts. Just because you forgive them does not mean you have to give them access to your life again. Once they have crossed the line, they regret it and apologize. You forgive and please go on with your life! That is not a sign from God like "Oh she said she is sorry and would never do it again". No!🙅🏽‍♀️ I learned the hard way that if they did it once, they will most likely do it again. I'm not saying don't hand out chances, but if someone has done something that has seriously hurt you, you need to discipline yourself and know you will not tolerate that anymore. And if it was something drastic there is no way in hell you will forget about it. The situation either prepared you for future friendships/relationships with other people or taught you a valuable lesson. So you can forgive and live a happy life, but you will NEVER forget how someone made you feel. Then again you can forget what hurt you...but you won't forget what it taught you.

(food for thought)