Pick & Choose Ya' Battles😤

You know the term "it ain't even worth it"? This is something I literally never put into practice...like ever. And as you get older you will realize that some situations will drain your peace and energy if you allow it to. Now my question to you is... was it even worth it? Look at you giving something the time of day, possibly disturbing your mental progress and now you're all mad and upset. And if you're an overthinker like I am sometimes then you most likely replay the situation in your head one thousand times thinking of how you could have handled it better. That is hindsight bias. You want to change the outcome of the situation because you already have seen the outcome of the situation. Basically, if you knew this was going to happen you'd change your choices. So instead of you even putting yourself in anymore situations like this (including myself) just think for a minute. Ask yourself the three "W's"; "Will this benefit me?", "Will this help me?" and "What will this teach me?" (LOL I just made that up and that's tough🔥) If the answer is "no" and "nothing" for all three of those then the sh*t ain't worth it! We have to start picking and choosing our battles more wisely for our own sanity. Just because someone throws a ball at us, doesn't mean we always have to catch it. I mean dodgeball is also a game too. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Something else I have learned is that....if it honestly has nothing to do with you, don't insert yourself so somehow you're intertwined in the "mess" or "chaos" or whatever you want to call it. It's not your weight to carry or your problem to solve. Sometimes when people talk all they want is someone to listen, not react and put matters into their own hands. 💯

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